I did not deserve my wife.
That’s not to say I am not valued or that I somehow feel inadequate. Let me take you back in time.
The Summer of 2010
Ke$ha’s Tik Tok was topping charts, and I was an insufferable single person. I had just gotten my heart ripped out and stomped on for all to see. I had gone from having a potential girlfriend to watching her get engaged to another guy, and it felt like a pretty public humiliation. She had been a work colleague, so basically everyone I worked with was aware of it. It was the worst.
All in all, I was a pretty annoying person to be around at this time; a real sad sack of a man-child. And my future wife, Damaris, was trying to get my attention in the midst of this crappy season. She was trying to get to know me, and I was a brick wall. It took me months, but finally in the fall of 2010, Damaris and I are starting hanging out.
Since she was gone during my birthday (which was – and still is – in October), she said she’d put something together to hang out with friends. But when my friends decided not to go, she uninvited her friends. Yes, she’s sneaky. On this “not-date” date, we went to the Cove and then we went and saw the movie “It’s Kind of a Funny Story” (Fun Fact: this line would end up being written on my groom’s cake.). And the rest is history.
Now we have a wonderful life, a beautiful daughter, and a strong marriage. I’m so thankful to God for my wonderful wife, and that he didn’t give me what I thought I wanted but what I needed. I needed Damaris’ strong, godly character. I needed her passion for ministry. I needed to be challenged to grow as a person, as a man, and as a child of God. And God knew what I needed long ago, and he knew Damaris would be a true partner in life. I am thankful everyday for His provision and her consistence in my life.